Step 3

Step 3

3.  Made a decision to turn our will and lives over to the care of God as we understood God.[1]

I can’t, God can, I think I’ll let him[.[2]

12-Step Slogan

I don’t have to do it alone; I can give it to God and he will do it for me. He will help me do what I can’t do for myself.  All I have to do is to pray, trust, wait, listen, and let go.  Let go and let God as the slogan says. 

What[ a relief.  God is there.  I don’t have to figure it all out. I don’t have to figure out how I could have gotten my mother to stop drinking, my father to stop screwing around, Alex to love me again, the phone to ring, insane parents to get a clue, my roommate to talk to me, or to get the scale down when I’ve been good all week. I don’t have to figure out how to be perfect, how to be lovable to others, or to myself.

I am not God and I can’t control the future.  I can’t control outcomes to suit my needs.  Things are going to happen as they are meant to happen regardless of what I do. God is in charge, I’m not. 

All I have to do is live in this moment. One day at a time. Easy does it.  Let go and let God.  Turn it over.[3] These Program slogans really work for me. 

God will help me do all these things. All I have to do is ask for help, give him my life, and let go. God will help me get my carcass in this chair to write this book when all I want to do is eat chocolate, drink red wine, and watch Johnny Depp movies.

One of Juliet’s Positive Affirmations works very well with this step:

• God has a plan for my life better than I could have orchestrated.  I give it to God and let go. 

Here’s another one:

• God knows everything about me and loves me anyway.
  
  

Nothing could be finer than giving my life to God, who was, is, and will be.  Forever.

[1] Ibid.

[2] Slogan of Codependents Anonymous, Inc., Phoenix, AZ.

[3] Slogans of Codependents Anonymous, Inc., Phoenix, AZ.